Healing That Feeling
 
Be honest - have you ever set yourself a goal and not achieved it? Most people have, including me. In fact, I did this for many years without realising why. It was my limiting beliefs stopping me from moving forward. It's quite common for people to get stuck in an endless cycle of setting goals and then quitting them shortly afterwards, the problem is when we do this we accomplish nothing at all.

There are a few reasons people do not commit fully to their goals; limiting beliefs, not really wanting the goal enough, not feeling the goal is actually achievable - just to name a few.

But if you really want something, decide today to achieve. Make that decision right now. Make a serious commitment and then continually remind yourself of it by writing it down. You'll be much more likely to persevere and achieve the goal.

Here's how to commit to your goals:

1) First and foremost, you have to make sure that every goal you set is of VITAL importance to you. This can be tricky because we so often fool ourselves into thinking we want one thing when we actually want something entirely different. Take some time with this part of the process, and be sure that you get to the heart of what you really want. Why do you want it? What will it do for you? What positive things will it bring to your life? How will it help you? How will it make you feel when it's accomplished?

Write all of this down and keep it handy so you can refer to it as often as necessary if you feel your commitment beginning to slip.

Also ask yourself if your goal is worth the effort and sacrifice that will be needed to achieve it. If you can honestly answer yes, you are on the way!

2) Think about what will happen if you don't follow through. Would nothing much happen if you don't achieve your goal? If not, then you need to raise the stakes! You have to make your goal the most important thing in the world, and if you don't do it, you'll deal with negative consequences. Even if you have to indulge in a bit of "make believe" in order to do this, do it. For example, play up the fact that you'll lose respect for yourself if you don't follow through; or you might agree to give up something you love if you don't make it happen.

3) Then, each and every day, renew your commitment. It's easy to be committed you're your goal is new and your motivation is high, but you need to be able to STAY committed - no matter what! Each day when you awaken, read through the goal you wrote down on the first day, and stress again how vitally important it is to you. Promise yourself that you're going to do as much as you can to work on your goal that day, and every day until you achieve it.

When it comes down to it, no one can achieve your goals for you. If you want to achieve them, you'll have to find the resources AND the willpower necessary to keep going.

Try this daily affirmation to stop procrastination; "If I don't finish what I start, my success rate will always be zero".
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In addition to the 3 simple 'must-do' inner changes to putting some balance back into your life, you can make a dramatic difference if you also choose to make some small changes to your outer circumstances.

 

For example, you might choose to let go of certain obligations that are no longer meaningful or enjoyable to you.  Just because you agreed to host weekly meetings for a support group three years ago doesn't mean you have to keep doing it forever - especially if it's become a drain on your time and energy.  Let somebody else take over - they may enjoy the opportunity.



And does your aunt Doris really need a visit in person 4 times a week from you, would a phone call each day and 1 visit a week be enough?  Could another family member go instead of you sometimes?

 

Be willing to let go of activities that no longer complement the lifestyle you desire OR make you happy, and you'll create a space for greater fulfillment, joy and peace.

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If you are feeling stressed or overwhelmed on a regular basis, you really need to get some balance back into your life.  Firstly for health reasons (stress really is a killer!) but secondly because we are totally inefficient when we are in overwhelm.  We want to achieve so much, but we actually achieve very little – ever noticed this?

Believe it or not, balancing your life does not require massive changes.  You don't have to quit your job, abandon your family and escape to a remote retreat in order to feel peaceful and happy.  In fact, true balance is something that starts WITHIN YOU first and foremost - no matter what else is happening in your outer life circumstances.

Here are 3 simple ways to begin building a greater sense of inner peace and calm;

1)  Quiet time.

How often do you really do this?  One of the first things we tend to sacrifice when we're busy is our personal time.  Instead we devote all of our energy and attention to caring for others, multi-tasking, meeting responsibilities and "being productive."  Over time this depletes our energy and we begin to feel more and more burdened by our responsibilities.

To live a more balanced life, quiet time to yourself is CRUCIAL.  You may believe that you don't have any time available for yourself, but something amazing happens when you consistently MAKE time; you find yourself feeling happier and more energetic, your focus improves - and you still get plenty done!  Just a few minutes spent sitting quietly in meditation or reading a book can do wonders in transforming stress into peace and happiness.  

2)  Self-care.

Beyond making time for things you enjoy, there are other ways to nurture and love yourself on a daily basis.  Getting a full 8 hours of sleep (or as much as you personally need) is a great start, as well as eating nutritious food, exercising daily and speaking kindly to yourself.  Even if it is taking an extra long bath, painting your nails or giving yourself a facial massage every now and then.

Have you ever noticed that when you're really tired or stressed, even the smallest problem can seem like a nightmare?  On the other hand, when you're feeling well-rested and centered, you're much better able to handle upsets.  Caring for yourself is one sure way to consistently replenish your energy, inner peace and joy - which means you'll have the strength to handle whatever comes your way.

3)  Flexibility.

Did you know that one of the biggest causes of stress is rigid expectations?  We all do it from time to time; get a mental picture of how our lives "should be" - and get really annoyed when our outer circumstances don't cooperate!  One of the biggest gifts you can give yourself is a flexible state of mind.  In other words, learn how to detach from unrealistic expectations and go with the flow.

When you have a flexible mind-set, you're able to deal with crises and problems much more easily because you're not working against a preconceived notion of how things "should be".  You're able to tap into your creative problem-solving skills and move through challenges without all the drama and frustration.  Be like the tree that bends with the breeze - and you're much less likely to break!
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Be honest - have you ever set yourself a goal and not achieved it? 

Most people have, including me.  In fact, I did this for many years without realising why.  It was my limiting beliefs stopping me from moving forward.  It’s quite common for people to get stuck in an endless cycle of setting goals and then quitting them shortly afterwards, the problem is when we do this we accomplish nothing at all.

There are a few reasons people do not commit fully to their goals; limiting beliefs, not really wanting the goal enough, not feeling the goal is actually achievable – just to name a few.

But if you really want something, decide today to achieve.  Make that decision right now. Make a serious commitment and then continually remind yourself of it by writing it down. You’ll be much more likely to persevere and achieve the goal.

Here’s how to commit to your goals:

1)         First and foremost, you have to make sure that every goal you set is of VITAL importance to you.  This can be tricky because we so often fool ourselves into thinking we want one thing when we actually want something entirely different.  Take some time with this part of the process, and be sure that you get to the heart of what you really want.  Why do you want it?  What will it do for you?  What positive things will it bring to your life?  How will it help you?  How will it make you feel when it’s accomplished?

Write all of this down and keep it handy so you can refer to it as often as necessary if you feel your commitment beginning to slip.  

Also ask yourself if your goal is worth the effort and sacrifice that will be needed to achieve it.  If you can honestly answer yes, you are on the way!

2)         Think about what will happen if you don’t follow through.  Would nothing much happen if you don’t achieve your goal?  If not, then you need to raise the stakes!  You have to make your goal the most important thing in the world, and if you don’t do it, you’ll deal with negative consequences.  Even if you have to indulge in a bit of “make believe” in order to do this, do it.  For example, play up the fact that you’ll lose respect for yourself if you don’t follow through; or you might agree to give up something you love if you don’t make it happen.

3)         Then, each and every day, renew your commitment.  It’s easy to be committed you’re your goal is new and your motivation is high, but you need to be able to STAY committed – no matter what!  Each day when you awaken, read through the goal you wrote down on the first day, and stress again how vitally important it is to you.  Promise yourself that you’re going to do as much as you can to work on your goal that day, and every day until you achieve it.

When it comes down to it, no one can achieve your goals for you.  If you want to achieve them, you’ll have to find the resources AND the willpower necessary to keep going.  

Try this daily affirmation to stop procrastination; “If I don’t finish what I start, my success rate will always be zero”.

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For those of you that are interested in Reiki, here is a free gift ~ a 'hands on healing' attunement from Ole Gabrielsen. 

Ole is the person who developed Kundelini Reiki and Gold Reiki, which I am a BIG fan of, and many others.

Enjoy x
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One of the first steps on the Healing That Feeling 7 step programme is getting clear about what you want and writing your specific goals down.

However, sometimes it's just not that easy - we often have conflicting ideas about what we want or have such strong limiting beliefs about whether we can accomplish them that we dismiss them off hand.

Try this; 

Picture yourself in the future after achieving your goal. 
What does your future look like, are you happy, do you seem content? 

Remember you are focusing on the results of your goal NOT the goal itself.  This is after you have achieved the goal, so you should be happy. 

If not, why are you not happy?

Have you realised a reason that achieving the goal would make you unhappy?  You may want to write your results down and compare it to your original goal - does the goal still seem important to you?  Do you still want to achieve it?  If not, why not?  

Don't be put off by limiting beliefs ('I won't, I can't, I don't, I shouldn't' etc)  They are just your perception of the truth NOW.  Try using EFT on the results of this visualisation and see if it changes your mind at all. 
I used to believe that I would never get over my phobia (amongst other things) but I found a way because I was determined. 

If you want a goal bad enough - anything is possible.
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NOT a stressful one.

It's the holiday season, we've just had a few days away camping which was lovely, but it occured to me that with a 2 year old in tow, it's hardly a relaxing time for the adults when you are constantly running around after the little ones.

But there are 5 things that you can do each day to make sure you get the most out of your time off.  Here are a few simple ideas;

If you usually work in an office, have a stressful job or are constantly switched on to technology in your normal life - make your holiday a no-technology zone.  Switch off your cell phone (yes really!) and don't be tempted to check emails or ring the office.  Make the most of this 'quiet' time to practice 'doing nothing'  something that we should do on a regular basis but we very rarely do.  If you can do this for an hour each day for your 1 or 2 week holiday, you will be totally destressed.  Just enjoy being outside in the open air or sitting by the pool for an hour.

If you are staying in a hotel, check if they offer any treatments such as facials or massages, we rarely get the time to enjoy these when we are at home during our busy lives so make time now - let somebody pamper you for an hour.  If you are holiday with your partner and children, swap the childminding duties so that you both get a time out and you can both receive a treatment.   Each day when you get out of the shower, take extra time to get ready, moisturise your skin and paint your nails or give yourself a little massage on your face using your fingertips. 
If you are Reiki attuned - don't forget to self treat everyday,  you have no excuses not to do this when you are off work and out of your normal routine.  You could do it when sunbathing or last thing at night when you go to bed. 

Do what you don't normally do.  If you usually exercise on a regular basis or have a physical job, take it easy and relax.  Go for long strolls on the beach or in the countryside rather than pounding on a treadmill.   If on the other hand you usually sit all day in front of a computer - be active.  Try swimming, walking on the beach, tennis or badminton with your family, or even horseriding.  Aim to do an activity a day rather than just sitting around all day.  If you don't normally look after yourself during your busy working day or if you are a mum to young children see the above tip about pampering yourself! Do it; now is the time to put yourself first for once.

If you never find the time to read usually, why not try a 'holiday novel'.  We're not talking War and Peace here, we're talking something fluffy, funny or filled with frollicking!  Now is not the time for reading that serious book that you received for your birthday, keep it light and relaxing. 

Watch a sunrise or sunset everyday, enjoy your surroundings.  This is something that we don't usually get time to appreciate when we are at home in our busy daily lives, but there is nothing more beautiful AND relaxing.   So don't just stick to the pool or the hotel, really enjoy your natural surroundings, especially if you are in a completely different landscape to your normal home.  Get back to nature and do the things that are free; walking on the beach or mountains, visiting the local markets or beauty spots, talking to the locals, really embrace your surroundings and make the most of your time off.

Enjoy your holiday!



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You will not be punished for your anger; you will be punished by your anger ~ Buddha

If you struggle to cope with anger, it is such an extreme emotion that it will be causing major negativity throughout all areas of your life; you career, your relationships etc.

DON'T LET IT CONTROL YOU.

Use energy healing to let go of internal negative emotions, including anger before it totally eats you up inside.  This ties in to my previous articles about forgiveness and moving on.  We all get frustrated sometimes that our life isn't turning out the way we expected or that we cannot seem to reach out goals, but anger isn't the answer.

As soon as you learn to let go of anger (especially towards others that have hurt you or let you down) the sooner your life will start to feel more positive.

Do it today - do some EFT just on your angry thoughts, and see how you progress. 

Want some help?  Get in touch and we'll do it together.  I currently have space for 3 additional 1-2-1 clients.
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Aerodynamically the bumble bee should not be able to fly, but he doesn't know it, so he goes on flying anyway ~ Mary Kay Ash

What if... you didn't know that you were working class?  Or what if you didn't know that you were poor?  Or 'too fat'?  Or 'not pretty enough' Or 'uneducated'? 

Or ANY of the perceived disadvantages that you believe life has thrown at you. 

What if... you woke up tomorrow and absolutely knew for a fact that you COULD get that job if you wanted it, or that you WILL meet your perfect partner in the very near future, or that you ARE going to achieve your next goal?

If you knew that it was these things were a definite part of your future, would you believe it then?

If not, watch this video...

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